Daily Life

Do you ever get tired or your "daily grind"? Maybe your daily or weekly routine has started to feel wearisome and repetitive?

I'm sorry if you've been feeling like that lately. It's easy for those thoughts to sneak up on anyone. One thing that I try to remind myself is that each "phase" or "chapter" of life looks and feels different. When you're in the thick of it, it's easy to forget that you're life won't always look the way it does today. Eventually, your responsibilities and goals will change and your daily routine will change as well.

It's easy to forget what life was like when you were eight years old, a teenager, or before you met your significant other. What were your daily thoughts and concerns? What were you sick-and-tired of? What about life did you absolutely enjoy?

Thinking along those lines, I decided to write this post about what my life looks like on an average day. I wrote it mostly for myself, so in five or ten years I can look back and remember what my life was like during this time.

Our work days usually start at 4:30am, sometimes earlier. Most days I'll go back to bed after showering. On my worst days, I procrastinate getting ready by either surfing pretty pictures on Instagram for to long, or by hitting the snooze button to many times. Then I end up stressed and rushing to get out the door. On my best days though, I wake up and do something slightly more productive. My favorite thing to do on good mornings is to make us a green smoothie to share, and then spend a half hour doing stretches or yoga. (Honestly though, I usually choose sleep over green smoothies and yoga. Ha!)

My morning commute to work typically takes about a half hour. Most of the roads I take to work only have two lanes traveling the same direction. The worst days are when two people decide to go the exact same speed in each lane - or when there's an accident. The best days are when I hit most of the traffic lights green, or when I catch the beginning of the sunrise.

Work is a ten hour shift. Normally, the only "down-time" I have at work is during my breaks and lunches. It's usually go-go-go. But the best days at work are when all the paperwork is caught up, and the lobby and phones are slow. Then the bosses allow us to go on a paid half hour walk, because they want to try and promote healthy lifestyle choices. (I haven't been able to do this in about 10 months though, so that tells you how busy we always are.) There is a park and a walking trail by our building, so when we have the opportunity to go outside and walk it always makes my day better. I'm not gonna talk about my worst days at work, because I honestly don't want to relive or remember them.

Do I hate my job? Not usually. But I don't exactly love it either. It doesn't set my soul on fire or fulfill me in anyway.  I teeter-totter between feeling grateful to have a decent job, and then feeling restless and burnt out. I'm not exactly sure why I struggle with this so much. I'm good at what I do, but I wonder if I'm not cut out for the 9-5 corporate kind of job? I honestly think one of my biggest problems is the boredom that comes from doing the same mundane tasks all day everyday. Answering the same questions sixty times a day, like what our office hours are or what our address is. Then having difficult conversations with upset customers about the exact same topics or problems you talked to a customer about yesterday. The whole environment just starts to wear me down.

I guess I always imagined myself doing something that was actually meaningful and fulfilling, something that made a real difference in peoples lives. Right now, my biggest regret in life, was not having enough faith and courage to find a career that was more fulfilling four years ago. I feel like I "settled" for something that was stable and safe. (Which has been hard to admit to myself.) I know it's not to late though, and that I can still change careers and start on a path that I think is better suited for my personality and talents.

Anyways, the reason I included this little tangent about work is because these are daily thoughts that I struggle with and think about. They often sneak up on me while I am mailing out the mail or filing papers.

Coming home to J.R. is always one of the best parts of my day. He gets off of work before I do, so when I come home he's usually making dinner while listening to music. Normally, he has the music up loud, and he doesn't hear me come in. I'll pause for a moment and listen to him sing along to his favorite songs, which makes my heart happy. My favorite days are when J.R. is singing to country music, and the weather is nice enough to have the house windows open.

We always eat dinner together at our small kitchen table. This never happened when I was going to school, so I treasure this time together. There's no T.V. and no cell phones. Just us eating dinner together like an old married couple. We usually talk about the funny or annoying things that happened during the day, and it's nice to reconnect and check in with each other after a long day.

After dinner, we try to get a workout in together. Some days we'll do weights and resistance bands at home, other days we'll go for a walk. There's a park by our house, and I enjoy our walks the most when the weather is nice and we get caught in that "golden hour" of sunlight before the sunsets. While we walk, we tend to talk about our hopes for the future. (I usually spend about 10 minutes of each walk trying to convince J.R. that we need a dog in our lives.) And then we talk about other important goals like: improvements we want to make to our yard and house, trips we want to take, or things we'd like to do together as a couple or family. Sometimes I'll tell J.R. about the story and plot ideas I have in my mind for a book I want to write. Even though reading isn't his thing, he listens patiently, gives the best kind of advice, and calms my anxiety.

In the summer time, I like to try to spend at least two days a week with my mom's horse. She's a good horse, but she tends to be stubborn and lazy. The more I work with her the better she gets. J.R. always supports and encourages me with my riding and will come watch, even though it probably bores him half to death.

Then there's always chores and yard work to do around the house. The dishes, laundry, and vacuuming. Then filling the gas tanks, picking up groceries and prescriptions, paying the bills. (You know.)

We try to get to bed early since we have to get up so early. On good nights, we take turns reading the scriptures for about ten minutes. Most nights though, we spend time looking at Instagram or Facebook. I really wish we could break that habit. Since we've been married, we've never had a T.V. in our bedroom because we wanted our room to be a place where the two of us could connect and find relaxation and peace, but I feel like our cell phones kind of defeat that goal. Every night though, we always hold hands and say a prayer together.

If you've read this far, then you obviously know that our lives aren't glamorous or overly exciting. Our biggest goals at this time are: getting out of debt and improving our abundance, getting/staying healthy, making our house into the home we've envisioned, and trying our best to help bring happiness into each other's lives.

If you're struggling to get through "everyday life", then I hope that you'll reflect on what a typical day looks like for you and remember those small things that brought you happiness.

It's easy to get caught up in worrying about all the things we wish we had, and to take for granted the blessings we already have. While we look forward to the future and we're excited for what those days will bring, we also try to remember to enjoy the daily moments we have together right now.

I hope you learn to enjoy those little moments too. xoxo