3 Ways to feel better about New Year’s Resolutions

The New Year is a time for new beginnings and resolutions, 
but for many people it also carries a large amount of shame and guilt. Maybe you set a resolution last year and didn't keep it? Or you view resolutions as something you should be 
doing, but thinking about them makes your cringe. 

Below are 3 things you can do to get through the 
New Year feeling less guilty about resolutions.

1. Don’t let others pressure you. 

New Year resolutions are personal and the best goals are ones that you chose, not because it’s a good idea, but because it’s something you’re excited about. Don’t let society or other people guilt you into setting resolutions that you wouldn't otherwise chose for yourself. Also, be wary of people and businesses that are out to make a profit during this time. Many of these companies will use shaming tactics, disguised as motivation, to try and get you to purchase something from them.

2. Stop saying the word ‘should’. 

In our home ‘should’ is a cuss word, which we refer to as “the other s-word”. That’s because it’s a word that carries a lot shame. When it comes to New Year resolutions you may be telling yourself, “you should do this, and you should do that.” These statements imply that you are trying to guilt yourself into changing. Making and keeping a New Year’s resolution is easier when the desire for that change comes from a place of excitement and love- instead of guilt. Often just being aware of when you are using the word ‘should’ can be a red-flag that the resolution isn’t what you deeply desire, but something that you feel pressured into doing. 

3. Learn to let go of perfectionism. 

Often, when people are striving for perfection they have what has been termed “all-or-nothing thinking.” This means that once they slip up on their goal, they give up on it. Life isn't perfect and that’s 
ok. When setting goals, it’s important to remember that you’re going to make mistakes and have set backs. Anticipate what factors may contribute to those slip-ups, and then make a plan of how you’ll handle them when they happen. 

I hope this list will help prevent some of the guilt that is sometimes associated with New Year’s Resolutions because setting goals is an important part of life. It allows us the opportunity to better ourselves and can help us be more optimistic for the future.

Do you wanna read more about this? 
Check out my post from last New Year.


What are your feelings towards New Year's Resolutions?

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